Do you ever think, "I'll just check something small on WhatsApp, " then spend another hour scrolling in bed? Have you set a screen time limit on an app only to hit "ignore" when the reminder pops up? Do you feel the urge to check your phone every few minutes? If so, you're not alone - I'm right there with you. The truth is, most people find it challenging to put their screens aside!
If managing screen time is hard for us, imagine how difficult it is for our kids! It's no wonder we face so many protests, meltdowns, and power struggles.
Remember: our kids are born with all the feelings but without the skills to manage them (yet).
This is where we come in — whether it’s tolerating frustration when screen time ends or helping our teens question the information they consume online.
How to Introduce New Screen Time Habits to Kids?
Explain to your child that a change is coming:
"Hey, I want to talk about screen time in our house. I just want to share some new guidelines about screen time so that we're on the same page and know what to expect."
I know this is a change and it might feel disappointing... but I'm sure we'll get into a good routine. Screen time is a fun part of our lives, and there are other fun parts too. These guidelines ensure you get some of that fun and that we have room for other types of fun as well.
Emphasize that screens are not a bad thing:
"You're not in trouble, and screen time isn't bad - not at all. I think there’s a lot we can learn and enjoy, and a whole new world can open up for us. It's important to me that we do this gradually and together."
Be clear, specific, and detailed:
Clarity is key here. Make sure to include the allowed duration, which devices it applies to, which apps it covers, and any restrictions on what your child can do during that time. For example, instead of "30 minutes each day," say, "30 minutes of Netflix from Sunday to Thursday, and 30 minutes of tablet time on Fridays and Saturdays. During this time, you can watch any age-appropriate show or play any of the installed games on your tablet."
Give reminders before the time is up:
Use visual or audible reminders. This helps children see and understand, providing them with important time management tools.
Validate your child's feelings:
"Oh, I know. I wish it could be longer too. I understand. It would be great if we could have screen time all day! It’s really frustrating when you want more..."
Imagine your child accepting the screen time limits:
I know you're not there yet, but your ability to "see" your child's adjustment helps them build coping skills.
In conclusion:
Managing screen time is no small challenge, but with the right guidance and consistency, we can help our children develop healthier habits and a balanced relationship with technology.
screen, habits, kids
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